Sunday, September 24, 2006

Three feet away

I have lately been contemplating this idea i have had about fear and longing.
It has to do with when we want something and cant seem to take the last few steps to get it.
What blocks our selves from making this small advance that feels like a huge chasm.
I have felt many times in my life i was standing three feet away from where i wanted to be.
In example being in a situation like getting a part in a movie or a gig or the job or the promotion or even the relationship etc.
It seems we can get close but its that last few feet that seems the hardest.
I started to ask why this seems so and why some people seem to always get what they desire.
A movie called "What the bleep do we know" that came out a wile back touched on it and many books i have read also spoke of it. "manifest destiny" some people also call it prayer or faith. I find the basic idea is how you believe.
if you believe ultimately you will have it you will inadvertently get it. but if you retain self doubt you will not. or it becomes much harder to attain. The psychological aspect of this seems to be that the longing is a deep seated emotional thing and can mostly be at the very core of a persons personal issues.
Some life trauma drives a person for fame or accomplishment in some part of there life to somehow heal a personal emotional wound. Or prove to a parent or loved one there worth or even show themselves that they are whole or deserving of praise or love from others. A primal instinct for acceptance. Or sense of personal worth even judged by you alone.
But if you don't feel you deserve it you may not take the necessary steps to move towards it. sometimes even we may talk our selves out of wanting it of fear of the pain of never getting it or shame and failure of not achieving it. but at the core, the insecurity or self evaluation of not being good enough can hinder your belief and create the negative aspects of manifestation. As in making wrong decisions and choices that one may not even know are counter productive to the goal.
All can be traced to fear. Fear of not being worthy is probably at the core of failure to achieve.

I did an experiment recently to see if wishing could manifest a thing you desired. i took an example from one of those self help books we have so many of these days. basically the idea was to put up a picture of something you wanted in this case it was a rare classic car i always liked and wished to someday own. So every day i took a look at the picture and imagined myself driving it. Even specific day dreaming like shifting and steering and tooling about with the top down. i imagined the color and found just the exact picture of one i wanted.
I said to myself i can have that if i believe it will happen. And i left it to faith to deliver.

Several things happened. one was that my interest in these cars started to pique and i began to look around for information on them. I read about there history and technical spec's. the second thing was i made effort to arrange my finances to maybe acquire one if i was lucky enough to find one for sale within my budget.
during all this i spotted an add for one that was being sold. it was the color and close to the very picture i had.
the price was a bit higher then i thought i could afford but it was in excellent shape and got me excited about it.
So i checked into a loan thinking i was not going to qualify for it. But taking the chance seemed like nothing to loose except maybe my being disappointed. but i would still be no worse or better off by not trying. So i had faith in it working and tried.
It turns out as you may have guessed i got the loan and days latter was driving the car on a sunny day near the beach.

My skeptical nature said to me hay all the manifest destiny crap was not what got you the car but it was your efforts that did it. And yes this is true but my belief and faith created my efforts and any self doubt would have caused me to make less effort or even in some peoples case sabotaged it.
so my point being manifesting what you want comes more down to the attitude you have about the desire and not just the steps to get it. you must really want it and for the right reasons as you define them.
so the last three steps as hard as they may seem can be made easy by a positive attitude about those steps. And as much as i hate Pollyanna i have to agree she is right. its just a matter of practicality.

Think it and you can be it.

Chaz

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